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Each of us has a style of engaging conflict Conflict styles are largely learned Since they are learned, conflict styles…
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What happens when someone brings a plate of dog poo to the potluck? In other words, a set of ideas that are indigestible, harmful, and destructive to the very concept of human dignity?
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Continue ReadingAnti-Racism for Beginners: A Free 14-Session Class
A course designed for beginners covering the history and realities of racism in the United States, impact on contemporary issues, crucial concepts and ideas, and paths to allyship and further action.
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It can feel disorienting and overwhelming to find ourselves in a moment of anger, especially when that anger is on a grand scale, like political unrest. Understanding anger is challenging, let alone experiencing the emotion in the first place.
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For many years, I believed that power always equates with pride. I struggled with confidence, thinking I was supposed to be meek and apologetic, not powerful. I thought that holding strong opinions and speaking loudly with conviction were a dangerous game.
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